Boys and girls have a lot of differences, right? Boys are boys. And girls are girls. Think about it. Boys like manly things: hunting, fishing, wrestling, blood and guts, explosions, saving the damsels in distress. Girls like more feminine things: sleepovers, chocolate, shopping, anything with romance, dressing up, and being fought for and saved by masculine men. Of course those are stereotypical boys and girls. There are the girls (like myself) who like hunting and fishing and explosions. And there are guys who like shopping, occassional romance movies or novels, and dressing nicely. Either is fine, either accepted, and both are great.
But this isn't about the differences between guys and gals. It's more like the lack of differences, the similarities that society over looks, or maybe doesn't want to see. There are just some things that I've noticed and learned from talking to my guy friends and talking about guys with a couple of my best female friends that I figured I'd share with anyone who happened to stumble on my meager little blog!
First things first. Guys have feelings. Even the manliest men out there. They have emotions and need affection just as much as ladies do. Some won't want to admit this, of course. They are just putting up a front. God created both men and women as emotional beings, needing relationships and affection, and filled with emotions. Anyone can deny this, but truth will out.
With that said, I think it's important to say guys need ladies to guard their hearts. If we girls expect guys to guard our hearts, we need to do the same. There is always talk of girls protecting guys from lust, which I wholeheartedly agree that people, boys and girls, need to dress modestly. But that's a different topic for another time. Men invest in their relationships just as much as women do. Why should their hearts be treated any differently from ours?
I think it's important for girls to treat guys with the same love, respect, gentleness, and protection as girls expect and demand from guys. They might not show it as often as girls do, but guys have the same emotions and feelings as girls. That's what I think.
What do you think? Agree? Disagree? I want to hear your feedback!! Thanks for suffering through this! Haha!
Good observations Kayla! I see that you have been learning something at college after all ;-)
ReplyDeleteKayla! Here are some thoughts I put together on this topic some time ago... I still agree with them. Let me know what you think!
ReplyDeleteSo, a guy invites the girl into the journey of life he is on. A mission if you will. He invites her in because he will need her on his journey. It's not a one way thing though, he hopes that she needs him as much he will need her...
The guy has to fight for her affection, for her heart. He has to earn her. A bit more personal twist in this, I don't fight for things without putting my heart in it. I think that's impossible.
So in a way a guy doesn't guard his heart because he shows it by fighting for her. The harder he fights the more it's exposed. If he's not fighting then he is rarely exposing his heart.
What a guy does do is guard hers, if he cares for her, he guards hers. That's what guys are supposed to do. And guarding does not mean advancing. It means GUARDING. Guarding what he's been given and not making advances without her first giving it to him.
Also, it was emasculating to have that published in this font.
DeleteYa! All of that makes total sense! Thanks for sharing that!
ReplyDeleteHaha, as for the font...oh well. :)